tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33029100170840554032024-03-05T06:37:23.498+02:00I and the worlddinkbeesthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04768790810171883261noreply@blogger.comBlogger506125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302910017084055403.post-29210457649679427202016-09-13T00:09:00.000+02:002016-09-13T00:09:59.772+02:00For a minute there/ I lost myself/ I lost myselfI haven't written in over two months.<br />
Not for lack of something to write about, more because of a lack of time and the sense that the right words would come, that they could not be forced.<br />
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Time was consumed by a new job, at first. Then I moved into a new apartment, which absorbed all the energy I had left, mainly because schlepping things and going to Ikea are exhausting tasks. At about the same time, a new person came into my life, and the getting-to-know this newness was equally time-consuming. All of these things were good, they were little signals of life finally settling into a recognisable form and me not always seemingly on the hunt for whatever comes next.<br />
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But I knew the fates would think of something. Good never lasts long. Good gets a few weeks of being blissful, before something wrecks whatever was going well. This time it was a routine check-up on a random Friday at the gynaecologists. I had gone a few weeks before and been told I had a cyst that needed to be monitored, but that it was probably nothing, that this was just something women got.<br />
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Turns out nothing was two pomelo-sized tumours hiding on my ovaries and pressing on my bladder. This situation was made even more fun because the gynae thought that she should inform me of this development while I was still in the torture chair, half-naked and with my vagina out. She told me to get a paper from the reception, and that the operation should happen ASAP. My hearing only honed in on 'tumour' and 'reception', so I went there, got a piece of paper, was told to call the hospital, and left.<br />
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I took my bike, rode to the station, got on a train, and stood there, holding onto my bike and crying. Then I went to work and ignored the news, mainly because I was not sure what it meant and also what I was supposed to do now. Normally I'd call my mom because she'd know, but she was far away and I didn't want to panic anyone.<br />
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After work I had made a Skype date with my mother, and told her the news. It was strange, being alone in a room and her equally so, with thousands of kilometres between us, when all I'd instinctually want to do is hug it out. Luckily a friend had said to come by for dinner, so I could unload on her and sit crying (again) in her kitchen. Luckily we also had wine.<br />
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On the Monday I called the hospital, got an appointment with the operating doctor on Thursday and was sliced open by Friday. One week. One has to admire the speed of it all.<br />
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But it was strange and, above all, frightening. The gynae had not told me anything besides it being a tumour. For a week I was told to wait and see, that things would be fine, but at the same time being fed Wikipedia-knowledge about my ovaries also being taken out and with them the possibility of having children. These were not questions I wanted to ask myself. This was not what I wanted to debate. The Monday evening I cracked, and told my sister to come. This was not something I felt I could do alone in a country that has yet to feel like mine. She said she'd get on a plane.<br />
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Two girlfriends and I had brunch and cycled to the hospital. They brought snacks and sat with me for hours as we waited and tests were done. On the Friday I took my suitcase and check in alone. Another lady was there for a similar operation, something to investigate her ovaries because she was trying to get pregnant and it was not working. I got some pill that was wonderful and relaxing, and was wheeled into the operating room. The anaesthesia was ice cold and hurt my arm. <br />
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I woke up and fell asleep repeatedly. There was a man wheeling me to the room. I spoke to him at length about cake, mentioning 'melk tert' and how my mom has an easy one that she makes. My one friend had been there, but the operation took longer than expected. The tumours were larger and could not simply be sucked out. The muscles had to be cut open and the the tumours extracted, but because of their weight they sucked onto the lining (or something) and it took even longer. This is what the doctor said on Sunday, and afterwards I made the mistake of googling what dermoid tumours are. Here's the description: "an abnormal growth (teratoma) containing epidermis, hair follicles, and sebaceous glands, derived from residual embryonic cells". Jip. Hair, teeth, skin, all wrapped up neatly and growing inside of you.<br />
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During the night I found out I was peeing into a bag and struggled to sleep on my back. Breakfast was served early and consisted of white bread with spread. Lunch was unrecognisable vegetarian slop throughout, and dinner (again) bread and spread. The stereotype of hospital food being horrible was being fulfilled, but makes no sense to me: would sick and recovering humans not profit from a better diet? From food that looked and tasted like food, instead of being without consistency and nutritional value?<br />
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My sister arrived on Saturday. It was a relief hearing her, because I knew that I could trust her with anything. She helped me wash myself and combed my hair when I could not, and helped me up to take a walk. It was almost incomprehensible: having a young, relatively strong body one day, and not being able to walk the next. Friends came by, brought food and entertainment. People walked at a snail's pace with me, or sat around, or told me what had been happening in their lives. It was good: the world was brought to me.<br />
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After 5 days I became restless - my sister could only stay for a week and I did not want her to waste her time on just coming to the hospital. There were things to be seen and shopping to be done. Wednesday they said I could go. The greater challenge still lay ahead: getting up four flights of stairs. She carried my bag and I carried myself, slowly, but we made it.<br />
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The next few days were recovery on speed. We went to a beer garden, we went shopping, we went to a friend's garden. We even ran to catch a train, me holding my stomach and her holding the door. Her being here helped immensely, but the last days were equally exhausting, at least in part because I sort of emotionally blackmailed her into building two chairs with me (one of my idiotic ideas to reupholster two old chairs that was more of a mission that expected). The my sister got on a flight back to South Africa, and I was left to languish for two weeks.<br />
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This thing man, it shook me. It turned out not as bad as expected, and the scars will fade (mainly because my mother thoughtfully keeps sending me ointments that will help in making them disappear as much as possible), but the week of fear. That remains a memory. The fear of not knowing what will happen, of not being in control at all, of your body being the thing to rebel against you. The fear instilled by this lack of knowledge and half-truths inhabiting your thoughts. The fear of being alone in a place, and not knowing what to do, really.<br />
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But it also gave me a wonderful sense of community. People on three continents wrote, called and rallied. People came to check up on me, people asked if I needed anything, people brought the equivalent of 'People' magazine. Even people I did not know cared: an older lady in the same wing of the hospital and I would walk together at times, her having had a hysterectomy, and both of us carrying our bags of wound juice (or whatever it is that one calls it). She stopped shuffling forward when I recounted my operation, and started crying. Afterwards, every time she saw me in the hall she'd squeeze my arm and walk on.<br />
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I realise this wasn't such a big deal, that there are others with much larger issues and that all I had was one horrible week. One week that made me go from being fearless to merely undaunted.dinkbeesthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04768790810171883261noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302910017084055403.post-17893381538240054852016-06-17T00:21:00.002+02:002016-06-17T00:21:39.328+02:00Dodged a BulletNext to me lies a pile of documents I have wanted to post about.<br />
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Flyers given at the <a href="http://www.karneval-berlin.de/en/" target="_blank">Karneval der Kulturen</a>, where I pressed my body against other bodies with the intention of going nowhere really and ate spicy, fatty chicken from an African vendor because he said it was "lecker, lecker, lecker" and it smelt like home somehow. The map from the photowalk I partially did with the <a href="http://www.co-berlin.org/en" target="_blank">C/O Berlin</a>, where we walked through <a href="http://stephenshore.net/" target="_blank">Stephen Shore</a>'s exhibition and then tried to photograph the city in his style by collectively creating a visual diary that didn't feature any spectacular views, memorable moments or key locations, which we then posted on Instagram using the hashtag #BerlinSurfaces. I left after we had ice-cream somewhere near Bellevue, as there was something else happening that day and I felt I wouldn't be able to do it all, despite Nike telling me to 'just do it' and Sheryl Sandberg saying we should 'lean in' and society saying that we can 'have it all'. Another factor in quitting the walking tour might have been my hangover and lack of sleep, but we'll never know.<br />
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">#BerlinSurfaces</td></tr>
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Also #BerlinSurfaces</td></tr>
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Some pamphlets from Berlin's <a href="http://www.gallery-weekend-berlin.de/" target="_blank">Gallery Weekend</a> further form part of the pile. I remember we were both late, meeting up near the Museumsinsel and checking out extremely expensive art placed lonelily in large, high spaces. Even one of Hirst's spot paintings hung in one corner.<br />
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We then went to grab coffee and lay in the sun in front of the Dom, before exploring the works of <a href="http://blueandjoy.com/" target="_blank">Daniele Sigalot</a> in one of the galleries. He makes paper planes from aluminium that make you want to return to childhood afternoons spent in gardens and pretending to be something fantastical.<br />
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The last station we visited was <a href="http://www.spruethmagers.com/home" target="_blank">Spruth Magers</a>, where everything was a bit weird and hovering in the realms of art categorisation where people say "I don't really understand it". Alexandre Singh had a fun installation titled <i>The School for Objects Criticized AE </i>where ordinary household objects such as bleach, a toaster, a slinky, a stuffed skunk and others that I can't recall have conversations ranging from art criticism to sex to God and death, with new characters being illuminated by a spotlight when they enter a scene.<br />
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Now the stack of papers has been worked through, digitalised as memory, and the move tomorrow can begin. My own place, my own space, maybe to hang up Hirst in a corner. Or, alternatively, something I could actually afford. </div>
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dinkbeesthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04768790810171883261noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302910017084055403.post-71731459727125549962016-06-07T23:59:00.000+02:002016-06-07T23:59:06.025+02:00I'm no good next to diamonds<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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The past few weeks have been laced with exhaustion. I would ask myself what fresh hell the fates could come up with, how much shit I'd have to wade through to get to some point far off in the distance that signalled an end to whatever this limbo was. And I'd wallow in the apparent hardship of things not working out quite as planned, also because I had not in particular planned anything.<br />
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But the tides have turned somewhat. May the odds be ever in your favour, and all that.<br />
One of the reasons is that I get to see JR on a daily basis. The new job is situated in an old industrial area that is being gentrified to seduce startups and other exciting medium-sized enterprises to use the tall stone buildings as bases. One of the towers features an image that was part of JR's 2013 project <i><a href="http://www.jr-art.net/projects/the-wrinkles-of-the-city-berlin" target="_blank">Wrinkles of the City </a> </i>where the portraits of an older generation on buildings that have equally stood the test of time indicate how people grow and change with the hardships and joys that their cities experience.<br />
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I wonder if this will be true again in 50+ years when a portrait is created of this generation, a generation that is constantly on the move and wanting to experience the world. Do we all have a home? A place we cling to, a place we can return to, when all else breaks away? Or do places and spaces become increasingly irrelevant as concepts of what home is in a time of crisis have to adapt to people being driven by the hundreds of thousands out of the cities that were once theirs?<br />
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Questions for another day.<br />
<br />dinkbeesthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04768790810171883261noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302910017084055403.post-20070963859573968912016-05-17T15:35:00.000+02:002016-05-17T15:44:25.481+02:00Firestone<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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Patience is not a virtue that I have in spades. In contrast to the other six it is the hardest one for me, as it involves sending the good in you out into the universe and waiting on a response. Maybe it is a chance for introspection and contemplation, or it is a time to go stir crazy by feeling trapped in limbo.<br />
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In times like these I try to find distractions, whether these by activities such as the <a href="http://www.karneval-berlin.de/en/" target="_blank">Karneval der Kulturen</a> that was on this weekend, or watching the <a href="http://www.eurovision.tv/tag/expand/2016" target="_blank">Eurovision Song Contest</a> for the first time, or thinking about what to do with two stalks of rhubarb that have been lounging on the kitchen counter without purpose. As rhubarb is not very common in South Africa, before coming to Germany I hadn't really considered cooking or baking with it, and don't know what one traditionally does with the reddish stalks. Last week I made Jamie Oliver's <a href="http://www.jamieoliver.com/recipes/fruit-recipes/stewed-rhubarb-and-vanilla-yoghurt/" target="_blank">Stewed Rhubarb</a>, where all you do is cook the rhubarb with some orange juice, ginger and sugar, which I then ate with yoghurt as a breakfast alternative to post toasties.<br />
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Previously, I had delved into rhubarb syrup and a wonderful <a href="http://eyeandtheworld.blogspot.de/2014/05/strawbear.html" target="_blank">rhubarb panna cotta tart</a>, but this not being my home and not really having and kitchen utensils (people, it is soooo much easier working with cups and teaspoons than it is with grams and scales) I kind of winged a little something something with the two rhubarb stalks.<br />
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Taking this <i><a href="http://www.bbcgoodfood.com/recipes/rhubarb-buckle" target="_blank">Rhubarb Buckle</a> </i>recipe from the BBC as inspiration, I used fairly random measurements as the scale's batteries no longer work and I improvised with a coffee cup. Also, I added a slab of dark chocolate and used orange juice instead of an actual orange because I didn't have one.<br />
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">The four parts: base dough top left, then chocolate, oat crumble and rhubarb with orange juice. </td></tr>
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It all seems fairly simple, and assembling the various layers really is not a difficult task. The problem arose (literally) when I noticed the bottom dough had completely swallowed up the crumble layer. Also, a knife inserted at about 30 minutes came out clean, so I took the cake out for fear of over-baking it and ending up with something that tastes like eating a desert and not a dessert. Haha. <br />
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But then the taste test (read my gluttony) revealed the cake still being overly moist. It went in again, and now it is still moist enough (thanks rhubarb) but not undercooked as the previous piece had been. The dark choc also works really well, but somehow I think the recipe needs a bit of tweaking, or me actually using the correct measuring utensils and not winging the exact science that is baking.<br />
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I'd say not a complete flop but it you want to impress the people at work or a weekend barbecue I'd rather say make this celebration <i><a href="http://www.bbc.co.uk/food/recipes/celebration_chocolate_26103" target="_blank">chocolate mousse cake</a>:</i><br />
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Inside, I wait to head out, feet frozen because wearing shoes inside will never be normal for <i>kaalvoet kinders</i>. Today may be the day I find my own place and move out. What a difference space makes.<br />
And it is desperately needed - earlier on I was skyping with a friend and had asked which room would be best, where would I least disturb, where could a conversation be had behind a closed door. I asked, I adapted, I offered to change if/when needed. In the middle of our conversation about politics he busts in, fumbles around behind me, listens in, mumbles approvingly at some of the things my friend is saying. I ask whether he wants to work, if I should change rooms because I'd like to speak in private and not have my entire conversation surveilled. He goes off on a tirade about how we share space and that he has the right to enter where he wants when he wants. Which is true, this space belongs to them, and I am a tenant of sorts, a presence that one has to tolerate because it is what familial expectations dictate. But is privacy not also a right? Is having a moment to talk to a friend on my own without the hearing ears of others not also just a sign of respect? It is a constant challenge navigating these waters.<br />
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Yesterday I was again skyping (thanks Skype for being such a lifeline to sanity), this time with my mother. At some point she made the thumbs-up sign and said "Shap". How easy that was. Shap Shap. All good. Everything's ok. The reassuring sign of my mom indicating that everything was as it was supposed to be.<br />
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Focus Sabine. It's all good. This is nothing.<br />
How you doin', you good? Ja man, hundreds.<br />
I'm hundreds.<br />
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<br />dinkbeesthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04768790810171883261noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302910017084055403.post-60416571992303688582016-05-04T12:53:00.000+02:002016-05-04T13:09:27.511+02:00Oft gefragtI have forgotten what's good in these uncertain times.<br />
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When nothing in sure, it is easier to have your attention drawn to weaknesses in yourself and in others than to look for fleeting moments of life being ok. To paraphrase Robert Frost, the thing about life is that it goes on. There is no use in dwelling upon hardships and despair because all this overthinking will do is pull you deeper into the darkness.<br />
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But man, it is hard to stave it off when your sword is a stick and you bunked on the day there was an introduction to fencing. So now all you can do is go tilting at windmills, ever forward, always getting back on your horse.<br />
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Enough with the literary braggadocio - this weekend was good. From Thursday on, it was good. Good came back swinging. Good showed up at the group exhibition of <a href="https://issuu.com/theartunion/docs/the_art_union_catalogue?e=24669414%2F35277300" target="_blank">What The Weekend Is Gallery</a> at Urban Spree when the music was jamming and some of the art seemed like you'd want to put it up on your wall. Good continued on Friday with the <a href="http://www.yemenpeaceproject.org/" target="_blank">Yemeni Film Festival</a>, which introduced the parkour scene in the bombed city of Aden as well as the importance of hip-hop and breakdancing in Cambodia, Uganda, Yemen and Colombia through the <a href="http://www.shakethedust.org/" target="_blank">Shake the Dust</a> documentary, and then at the opening of Hans-Peter Feldmann's photographic exhibition at the <a href="https://www.facebook.com/coberlinphoto/" target="_blank">C/O</a>. Good persisted throughout the night with Critical Mass riding by, crashing an architecture-meets-art party because I needed the bathroom and staying to enjoy free wine and a lady playing at a white piano whilst an elderly man fell asleep on a chair holding his Chardonnay, and then checking out a Russian grocery store with bottled tomatoes, meringues and sweets whose wrappers looked more enticing than their content.<br />
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Good did not give up after an already solid couple of days. In sauntered into Saturday whilst strolling through Mitte for Berlin's <a href="http://www.gallery-weekend-berlin.de/" target="_blank">Gallery Weekend</a>, where we mainly didn't understand the art and made dozens of gifs of ourselves with light installations. We continued on to a second-hand market where I bought pants that look like a dress and are wonderfully airy for the hopefully impending heat of summer. Aww jiss.<br />
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After a nap we pre-drank nasty-ass Mexikaner (shots made up of Vodka or Korn with tomato juice and Tabasco or something. It is like downing a tiny Bloody Mary) and danced to the glorious music of the Backstreet Boys before going to a club where we hip-hopped into May. I am pretty sure my dancing skills are not great, but just shaking all the negativity off through the beautiful sounds of 90s hip-hop was close to sublime.<br />
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Good hit another six on Sunday with warm weather, a neighbour-barbecue and meeting a friend with her friend, the two of whom were in town for a concert. We hadn't seen one another in more than a year, so catching up on the details in person filled in the blanks between Skype sessions and phone calls. As they went to Yann Tiersen I headed to the May-1st-demonstrations because I didn't want to return home just yet and protesting in SA usually means people toyi-toying and destroying things, so I gathered that this could be equally interesting. More interesting than the clad-in-all-black crown of protesters and gawkers was the clad-in-all-black police: their uniforms look like the armour of ants, and their synchronised drills made the whole protest run smoothly. When I left, no cars were burning, no one was fighting, but to my dismay no one was really chanting their dissatisfaction either. Weirdly some of the officers also had what appeared to be video cameras on their helmets, to what purpose I am unsure of (identification of possible threats? recording all attendees? state surveillance?). <br />
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And then good had to prove one last time why it is aspirational: Monday meant writing applications that actually were responded to and then meeting up with the friends from Sunday before they left the city. We got ice-cream at <a href="https://www.facebook.com/Eispatisserie-Hokey-Pokey-213549142011141/" target="_blank">Hokey Pokey</a> and just chilled in the park for hours before they departed for the train station and I got to enjoy some time in the sun before another friend showed up and regaled me with his tales.<br />
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<br />dinkbeesthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04768790810171883261noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302910017084055403.post-436988106321701942016-04-27T22:23:00.000+02:002016-04-27T22:23:05.141+02:00Al lê die berge nog so blouFreedom Day.<br />
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Whilst people at home celebrate the first democratic elections of 1994, I did yoga, cleaned the apartment and went to the market. When people yell supposedly cheap prices at me I cannot retain the semblance of self-control and end up buying 3kg of grapes for 2€ that I will never be able to eat by myself. Luckily tomorrow we are meeting up for a brunch at a friend's place, where a fruit salad will come in handy share some of my purchases (mangos! watermelon! strawberries!). This meet-up is a bit of a ruse as well: I am apartment scouting, as one of the rooms is freeing itself up in June and it might be an opportunity to move.<br />
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Always moving and living out of suitcases and boxes. I think my grandmother emigrated to SA with one large crate of things, and that was it. A life encased.<br />
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What is it that makes us want our things, want our clothes, want our spaces to belong to us? What is it about having and owning that drives us?<br />
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Waiting for my flight to Berlin in March I noted in my diary:<br />
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On the way back.<br />Say what you will, but this remains home. Maybe it is the people, maybe it is those still here; what remains is binding.<br />I couldn't lessen this, because this is simply part of what moulded me.<br />Despite my whiteness, despite other influences, I'll always be South African.<br />A strange thing to write.<br />This clinging to nationhood in far-away places. The taking along of reminders of home.<br />Peppermint Crisp. Marula Jelly. Cushions.<br />Things my mother gave me.<br />The boys in the queue behind me doing the same: brandewyn, chutney, aromat, sweet chili sauce.<br />The tastes of home we take with us. Rooibos. Baking powder in a metal 'blikkie'. Spray 'n Cook. </blockquote>
The tastes of home ringing true - I went to Galeria Kaufhof yesterday just to buy Mrs HS Balls Chutney.<br />
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<br />dinkbeesthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04768790810171883261noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302910017084055403.post-66275561678318578502016-04-07T22:45:00.000+02:002016-04-07T22:45:23.096+02:00Future PeopleTomorrow marks a month of having left the motherland. Having left the mother, who sends me images of recipes she is going to try out and FaceTimes with me while I sort through my books. Having left the friends who communicate through words on screens. Having left the sun, as here the cold holds on tightly to the days and the nights. Having left having to drive. Having left Afrikaans being spoken. Having left a strange sense of belonging.<br />
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Berlin offers up bureaucracy. I have never signed my name to so many papers in all of my years. Paperwork left and right, that is what uncertainty means here. But Berlin also offers up hope in many forms: that spring may come soon, that summer will be good and that somehow, somewhere, things will start falling into place.<br />
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dinkbeesthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04768790810171883261noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302910017084055403.post-29934325847294860122016-03-25T13:06:00.000+02:002016-03-25T13:06:16.651+02:00Growing UpI like closing my door and being by myself. Call it me-time, call it loneliness, call it isolation, but not having had a room of my own in the past six months and two weeks <a href="https://progressivegeographies.files.wordpress.com/2012/08/there-is-a-politics-of-space.pdf" target="_blank">the politics of space</a> are weighing on my sense of contentment.<br />
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For a week I am occupying a friend's apartment as she and her roommate have both left over Easter. It is the greatest feeling, just walking around in my pyjamas and refusing to leave the bed. Elsewhere, my bed is a couch in a room that needs to be used by other people. As grateful as I am for the couch and the accommodation, I miss not having to behave like an eternal guest. The guest has to remain polite, avoid confrontation, be clean and tidy and offer to help (whether this be with the dishes or the washing or going grocery shopping or whatever), whereas in your own space you can be wholly yourself. There is no stringent adherence to the polite rules of being a visitor, there is no obligation of feeling grateful and adjusting to the daily flow of a home that is not your own.<br />
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I miss not being a reduced version of myself. I miss organising my day according to my own desires and rules, and not having to coordinate every movement. I miss my own bedding, the futon mattress in storage five floors under the couch, I miss not looking for underpants in one box and winter coats in another.<br />
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Since coming to Berlin, I have felt a dreaded darkness that descends slowly when things aren't working out as quickly as I had hoped, when life is stagnating and I don't know how to kick its ass back into gear. I factored homesickness, a lack of sunshine and the insecurity of my current situation into the encroaching darkness, but my friend Des added that space is another element contributing to feeling out of place here. The inability to unpack my things somewhere that feels like home correlates with the other aspects. Basically, I miss having a door I can close.<br />
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But is this experienced lack not also a form of privilege? Had I grown up in a shack in Khayelitsha, in the slums of Delhi or a Brazilian favela I might not have the same need for square metres that belong to me, that I can occupy all by myself and do with as I please. Perhaps representative of a middle-class sense of entitlement, I grew up with the large houses with large gardens and swimming pools in suburbia that needed gardeners and cleaning ladies from rural areas to come by each week and maintain the property. The neighbours were inaudible presences behind tall walls that separated their lives from ours unless we wanted these to meet at an occasional braai or when someone's dogs had to be taken care of during the holidays.<br />
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Here, people literally live on top of one another. I can hear the muted voices of men or people shuffling furniture above me. Still, I think no one makes an effort to know their neighbours beyond short chats in the hallways. Even here, people need their space. <br />
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The last Saturday in Pretoria was action-packed. We woke up, dropped off the rental car I had hired for two days, headed to an instawalk hosted by Fujifilm South Africa and At Photo in Hatfield, met up with Mia at +27 Café, bought a shwe shwe skirt at the market in the 10 minutes before our parking ticket ran out and then braved the inner city on a Saturday for the<a href="http://www.marketatthesheds.co.za/" target="_blank"> Market at the Sheds</a>. We parked at the State Theatre and walked over to the market, which offers quite a contrast to the buzzing inner city trade happening on the streets right outside of it. After paying the R50 entrance fee we explored the stands in the large hall and tasted some spring rolls as well as a bobotie jaffel (a round toasted sandwich filled with curried mince meat and raisins) whilst listening to the band in the background.<br />
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After ambling past all the vendors and their stalls we headed across the courtyard to the African Beer Emporiums trial day. Also situated in a large hall, the space is simplistically decorated with wooden benches and tables, as well as succulents places on the tables and hung from the walls as decoration. We first had the Soweto Gold Apple Ale, which was absolutely wonderful and I wanted to immerse myself in a bathtub full of it as it combined the not-too-sweet taste of a Hunter's Dry with a slightly more apple-y flavour. Then I tried a Pretoria Steam Beer and wished to go back to the sweet sweet taste of the apple ale. But when in Snorcity one has to taste what it has to offer, right?!<br />
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Xander Ferreira (previously of Gazelle) was behind the crate-decks on music while a steady stream of people filled up the benches and enjoyed a selection of 7 beers on tap and more on the menu. We walked around some more and then went on our way, stopping at <a href="http://www.aromagelato.co.za/" target="_blank">Aroma's Gelato</a> on the way home. The rest of the day was filled with preparing dinner for some friends that came over later and then getting our dance on at Etc. in Centurion.<br />
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The email from the event company stated that Mumford & Sons were coming to South Africa. I was still doing an internship in Paris, but assigned my sister the task of buying us tickets as the Pretoria date coincided with her birthday, for which I would be in the city. On the day, I asked whether she had gotten the tickets, but she had forgotten and by the time she looked they had been sold out. Well, they had been sold out in three minutes, so the chances of getting some had been steep in any case.<br />
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Then another email came, saying additional dates in Cape Town and Pretoria had been added. I changed shifts and coordinated with a friend at home to both try and buy some tickets. At 9.00 we logged in, and miraculously minutes later I received a confirmation email for three tickets. The friend also got three, so now we were locked and loaded for the concert. </div>
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Months later, the day of the event had arrived. I had been lucky enough (or stalkerish enough) to recognise the band members of John Wizards on my flight from Cape Town to Johannesburg and proceeding to observe them at a distance to come up with a brilliant plan for trapping them in a conversation with me, the results of which I hoped would be some backstage tickets or a shout-out for my sister's birthday or something. Sadly I am too chickenshit to actually follow up on stalking semi-famous people and never talked to them. Also, my bag was the first one that came out, and I didn't want to appear weird whilst waiting for them. Stalker mode not on fleek (which I guess is a good thing). </div>
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The concert was held at the Amphitheatre near the Voortrekker Monument, which showcased Pretoria's city centre as a backdrop and also had enough space for the audience to spread out across the steps from which everyone had a good view of the stage. We arrived in time for John Wizards and then really enjoyed <a href="http://www.theverybestmusic.com/" target="_blank">The Very Best</a>, before <a href="http://beatenberg.net/" target="_blank">Beatenberg</a> played as last introductory act. The Saturday performance had been cut slightly shorter due to a highveld thunderstorm, but Sunday's show had perfect weather and the crowd seemed exceedingly excited to be there. Marcus Mumford appeared during Beatenberg's show, playing the drums and singing along, as well as Senegalese singer <a href="http://baabamaal.tv/" target="_blank">Baaba Maal</a> being featured during The Very Best's set. </div>
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dinkbeesthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04768790810171883261noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302910017084055403.post-61332073453280119592016-02-29T22:46:00.000+02:002016-02-29T22:46:37.756+02:0021st century heartbeat10 days left in the motherland.<br />
Yesterday I arrived back in Stellenbosch, tomorrow we embark on a little road trip past Gansbaai to Cape Agulhas and then on to Waenhuiskrans. The names of places ring bells for being where one goes to shark cage dive, the southernmost tip of Africa, and the town where Madel Terreblanche in the soap 7de Laan had a beach house. More than that I do not know.<br />
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Europeans have often asked me how many African countries I have visited, probably presuming that going from Kenia to Ghana to Swaziland is equal in distance and ease to travelling across their own continent. But Africa is an enormous continent with unequalled diversity and cultural differences, and travelling here means accepting hours (if not days) in the car or bus just to get from one side of the country to the other. When we were little my mom would drive the 12+ hours from Pretoria to Jeffrey's Bay all by herself while we would count different coloured cars, play I-spy-with-my-little-eye, suck on <i>Dirkie</i> condensed milk tubes and wait to see who could spot the ocean first.<br />
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Much of long distance driving to me still holds the fascination of looking out of the window and seeing another world go by. I know the golden afternoon sunlight in the Free State, the sudden spot of green as one approaches the Orange river, the soccer statue on the back roads in the small town of Richmond, or where the speed cameras between George and Wilderness are. My mother has taken us on a road trip to Swaziland, Lesotho and Kwa-Zulu Natal, where we stayed over in a monastery, ate cup a soup and drank wine after having gone up on Durban's <a href="http://www.mmstadium.com/" target="_blank">Moses Mabidha</a> stadium. In Swaziland we walked through the woods or saw hundreds of schoolchildren walking along the roads. To get up into the mountains of Lesotho we clambered into a Land Rover and held onto our seats whilst driving up the Sani Pass.<br />
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Other trips have included detours to the <a href="http://theowlhouse.co.za/" target="_blank">Owl House</a> in Nieu Bethesda or visiting Sutherland's <i>Southern African Large Telescope</i> (<a href="http://www.salt.ac.za/" target="_blank">SALT</a>) to see the stars of the African sky (but then having the visit cancelled due to a magnificent display of clouds at sunset that sadly prevented any real star gazing). We've gone up Table Mountain, we've traced the history of our family at Franschhoek's <a href="http://www.museum.co.za/" target="_blank">Huguenot Memorial Museum</a> or surveyed the land in the <a href="http://www.graaffreinet.co.za/listing/valley_of_desolation" target="_blank">Valley of Desolation</a>.<br />
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Once, my mother and I took the train from Johannesburg to Port Elizabeth and got stuck somewhere in the middle of the Free State, which turned a 20-hour trip into a 36-hour adventure. After a midnight arrival in P.E. we stayed over in a hotel before heading off to the <a href="https://www.sanparks.org/parks/addo/" target="_blank">Addo Elephant National Park</a> and then visiting my grandmother in Jeffrey's Bay.<br />
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Tomorrow we embark again, to see the world in one country.dinkbeesthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04768790810171883261noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302910017084055403.post-46194352882205577232016-01-10T11:53:00.000+02:002016-01-10T11:57:52.833+02:00PetrichorI've been home for a month now, and that is what this place is: home. Driving into Pretoria after a two-day trek up from the Cape, I knew coming over the hill by the Delmas offramp that we were in my hometown, that the house was not far away now. I knew the shortcuts, the menu at Kung-Fu Kitchen, the dry smell of the highveld air on hot summer's day. Everything here is easy in its familiarity.<br />
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For a week I have been stuck at my sister's place owing to the fact that I don't have a car and thus couldn't really go anywhere. Therefore, we decided to organise a braai on Saturday and invite a couple of friends over to hang out. One half were childhood friends, people who knew where everything was in the kitchen at the old house, who knew our dogs, who know all the intricacies of lives lived as webs spun in entanglements. A university friend came with her husband, my cousin showed up, boyfriends were brought along to this comfortable congregation.<br />
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The salads and snacks, pre-prepared, were waiting in the refrigerator (the one imposing the pungent smell of garlic on the entire kitchen), the plates and cutlery had been laid out and everything was ready. The clouds had gathered across the sky, but we expected it to pour down for 15 minutes in a typical highveld storm and then resume our barbecuing. We even performed a rain dance with a rain stick that my mother had bought more than a decade ago in Mexico. But the dance proved too effective and the rain never seized. We gathered inside, waiting it out, realising at some point that this braai would have to move partially to the kitchen. The boerewors was thrown in a pan, the chicken grilled in the oven whilst two guests braved the rain and barbecued the rest whilst huddled under an umbrella.<br />
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The meal was consumed and conversation flowed as everyone had tales to tell of small banalities and big events. By 10 PM the rain finally stopped and most went home, with only four of us enjoying the last bottles of red wine whilst sitting outside and smelling the crisp nighttime air. More than the city this was what I had missed: a contentment found in the congeniality of old friends, of people you needn't ever explain your life to because they had been there for so much of it already. <br />
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"We don't need to go into work if we're afraid because of the raid" came the message in our intern-WhatsApp-group. I had just woken up and was unclear what the others where talking about. What raid? Where? And why would I not go to work because of a raid? Huh? Turns out they were talking about the raid by police in Saint Denis yesterday, during which the cousin of the alleged mastermind behind Friday's attacks <a href="http://www.theguardian.com/world/live/2015/nov/18/paris-attacks-suspected-mastermind-abdel-hamid-abu-oud-was-target-of-raids-latest-news" target="_blank">blew herself up and numerous others were apprehended or killed. </a><br />
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Friday night I had met some friends near the Centre Pompidou for drinks and dinner, and just as we were deciding on pizza or thai food a message came through about there having been attacks at the Stade de France. I didn't even know really that a football game was happening, so I thought it might just be soccer violence. The others whipped out their phones as well and as the news began getting progressively worse and the sirens of police vans increased we all decided to head home. Once there, I spent the rest of the evening with the couple I am staying at, all glued to the TV and watching as the death toll went steadily up. Friends kept messaging if everything was ok, that they'd just heard the news. When the death toll reached 80 people and the siege in the <i>Bataclan</i> was still ongoing, I decided to go to bed, that this could only get worse.<br />
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The next morning I woke to dozens of messages and Facebook asking me if I was safe. It was strange to find out that we had been to one of the restaurants, <i>Le Petit Cambodge</i>, a few weeks ago because it features on a Buzzfeed list of places to eat at in Paris. Or that at 19 I had been to the <i>Bataclan</i> to see <i>TV on the Radio, </i>or that friends couldn't get home because the whole area had been cordoned off.<br />
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I packed my bag and walked to work, thinking that the thesis waits for no terrorists. The Marais, usually brimming on the weekends, was empty, the city deserted. Somehow, after unusually sunny November weeks winter had come in this night of terror. At a pedestrian crossing a siren could be heard approaching and for a split-second the man next to me and I looked at one another, a moment of dread in thinking "what has happened now?".<br />
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Even at work somehow I could get nothing done, sifting through report after report on what had happened. A friend was at the office as well, recounting how he'd been in the 11th and how they'd remained in a restaurant until the early hours of the morning, telling morbid joked to pass the time. People were posting #PrayForParis and changing their FB photo to the Tricolore whilst others were critiquing that the Beirut bombings had been ignored and that the whole attack was because of an extreme belief in one religion. On Instagram, <a href="http://time.com/4114288/paris-instagram/?xid=time_socialflow_facebook" target="_blank">"430 million interactions–that’s posts, likes and comments–were created in these first 24 hours, with people in more than 200 countries participating</a>".<br />
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Saturday we were supposed to go to a concert, now cancelled, so we gathered at a friend's place, ate together and drank wine while discussing the events. Somehow after tragedy strikes one needs others to make sense of how this could happen, after 9/11, after Charlie Hebdo, after increases in security. Who was behind all of it? And what was the aim?<br />
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Sunday marked the beginning of a certain defiance in the city of being told to remain indoors, of being afraid of when the next attack might come. The sun was shining and everyone was out, walking on the banks of the Seine, talking and laughing. For the past week, I have seen the same spirit in the roads of the city: people in cafés, people in restaurants; a father explaining during an interview to his young son that<a href="http://time.com/4116180/paris-attacks-father-son/" target="_blank"> they might have guns but that we have flowers, and that flowers will always be stronger</a>; graffiti stating that this event has brought us closer together; and an article by <a href="http://www.smh.com.au/comment/view-from-the-street/view-from-the-street-god-damn-it-we-need-to-be-kind-20151115-gkzh9i.html" target="_blank">Andrew Street </a>following the words of Vonnegut in stating "if we fight each other, we create fresh hells for ourselves. The enemy can only win if we do the fighting for them. We're a whole lot smarter than that. God damn it, we've got to be kind". <br />
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On Monday, the office had a general meeting to discuss the weekend's events and ask if anyone wanted to say anything. It was odd and awkward, thinking that anyone would want to talk about their feelings in front of 30 colleagues. Instead, people stood in office doors and huddled over lunch, explaining where they were on Friday and whether they knew of anyone who had gotten hurt. Some were saying that the <i>Charlie Hebdo</i> attacks earlier this year felt markedly different, because one could easily say "That has nothing to do with us, that is not our fight". But now, it was an attack on society itself and the values it guards most closely. It was an attack on the freedom to go have a beer after work on Friday or see the prostitution exhibit at the Musée d'Orsay or enjoying a night of head-banging with your friends. <a href="http://time.com/4119313/paris-terrorist-attacks/?xid=time_socialflow_facebook" target="_blank">This time everyone was affected because it was a terror that goes against our very way of life</a>.<br />
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Perhaps because of this life goes on. People are opposing statements against this being "the fault of the refugees" or "the muslims" or other hateful thoughts that creep in and make you not see the other as human and equal and as having the same rights as you. People seem to be wanting to be kind, because despite the governments bombing ISIS and the media whipping itself into a frenzy, there is no way other than trying, at the very least, to be kind.<br />
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dinkbeesthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04768790810171883261noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302910017084055403.post-2469546332723852532015-11-12T15:48:00.001+02:002015-11-12T15:48:39.760+02:00Built to roamThere was a birthday party at a beach with me not very keen on being there, me very keen on just saying a quick hello and then cycling home to a night spent in front of the TV. But somehow intentions changed and four of us ended up going out and dancing until the sun came up again. Hungover and tired I saw your FB message, and from there on for nearly half a year I was in the throes of a different kind of catfishing.<br />
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Catfishing normally implies meeting someone online and then forming an intense, co-dependent relationship with them. When the one then tries to see or speak to the other IRL, their illusion starts showing its first cracks as the other will always find some excuse for not being available. The body and its speaker don't manage to be in the same place at the same time, thus making it hard for the catfishee to continue the relationship. In most cases, the catfishee then finds out that the catfish is not who they said they were, and that they faked their profile for some reason, but that in essence it is the same person, just not. Then the catfishee is very disappointed and the relationship does not continue.<br />
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In an article for the <i>New Yorker</i>, Amanda Ann Klein <a href="http://www.newyorker.com/culture/culture-desk/consider-the-catfish?mbid=social_facebook" target="_blank">considers the catfish</a> by looking at how ambient intimacy fools someone into believing that this online-thing is a real thing. That words on screens are just conversations done differently, that someday a meeting will occur, something will develop beyond its digital origins into reality, and somehow the fairy tale will be complete.<br />
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But just as I naively clung to the idea of this real-not-real person, everywhere around me there were people doing the same thing. A friend was involved with someone with whom it was a constant back-and-forth of currents of communication being interrupted by long stretches of absence. Another uses one of the apps to entertain herself, admitting that none of the people she chats to are serious interests and yet becoming annoyed when no messages light up her inbox. We are all idiots not for love but for attention, lulling ourselves with pointless questions about the other's life into a belief that this matters.<br />
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Klein's article is more optimistic than my thoughts, stating that in the age of social media we have become used to a different kind of intimacy where we do not see distance as an obstacle, but instead accept "an ever-growing modern form of intimacy: the bodiless, online romance". The world has evolved so much to no longer question a mind-body-screen split, instead accepting the internet as merely another extension of our reality. It is an unusual thing, wanting to trust that what is presented to you on your smartphone is a flesh-and-blood person with valid experiences that you want to hear about. The most resonant part of the article is its last phrase: this shift to finding someone online is simply the continuance of what humans have always looked for - "the attempt and the failure to truly know another person".<br />
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Whereas catfishing still implies a relationship of some longevity, Nancy Jo Sales looks at the influence of dating apps and the possible "dating apocalypse" in an article for <i><a href="http://www.vanityfair.com/culture/2015/08/tinder-hook-up-culture-end-of-dating" target="_blank">Vanity Fair</a></i> , as most millennials use a combination of apps to chat with lists of people where the ultimate aim is to get someone in bed and not to actually get to know them. The apps all run similar algorithms where people can match up with one another by approvingly swiping right, with most men apparently using a combination of apps to find as many women to sleep with as possible. The article argues that the applications creating the illusion of there being an abundance of possible partners available, resulting in users thinking that someone better might always be just a swipe away. Basically people swipe right, meet up, hook up and then forget they ever exchanged bodily fluids.<br />
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One man in the article is quoted as considering whether his insatiable habit of sleeping with an ever increasing amount of women is misogynistic, whilst a group of sorority girls discusses how the sex they are having is mostly short, unpleasant and at times even painful. My question then is: if you're not enjoying the experience, why continue? Just as I wouldn't continue to buy chocolate with orange peel in it as I don't like the taste I won't go continuously having bad sex with men who won't remember my name because neither situations would make me feel particularly good. And with there being so many situations beyond my control that could already make a day seem quite shitty, I think being able to control who you sleep with and why should not be something you simply do because everyone is doing it.<br />
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Now, more than a year after being reverse-catfished, I found myself again in a digital weird-ship. An interest in the life of an other with an interest in mine, or so I thought. But after a while mysteries that reveal no new ways of solving them become tedious; you realise that despite a child-like trust there is no way of trusting a screen; ultimately, none of this matters because the thing about digital friends is that you can be rid of them simply by turning off your phone.<br />
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<br />dinkbeesthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04768790810171883261noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302910017084055403.post-68984685771336886292015-11-06T13:29:00.000+02:002015-11-06T13:29:13.854+02:00Lively up yourselfLong, dark days, that is what I know November will be. The sun will not set later than 17.00 again until January. I wake in darkness, I go home from work in darkness, and with three weeks left to complete this thesis and wholly embracing what the Fates are spinning, I am feeling a bit overwhelmed. <div>
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Last week I walked home at 21.00 and just managed to get some cheese and pesto for a late dinner. Upon rummaging in my bag in front of my building in search of the keys, an older man came shuffling by, and stopped to inform me that I should be smiling because I am pretty and would surely be married soon. </div>
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This, after reading and writing about patriarchy and sexism and racism all day every day for the past weeks. This, late in the night when I am exhausted. This, where I never asked the old man to give his opinion on my appearance. This, because 'resting bitch face' is not a real thing. This, because if I believed in a God I would ask her to smite the bastard down. </div>
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So fuck your patriarchy. Fuck coming up to me drunkenly at a party willst slurring the words "hey you're pretty want a Parisian lover". Fuck women <a href="http://nymag.com/thecut/2015/11/woman-gets-rape-threats-for-having-an-opinion.html?mid=facebook_nymag" target="_blank">online receiving rape threats for having an opinion</a>. Fuck thinking that this makes me an angry feminist bitch. </div>
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What I find endlessly frustrating is how people believe in the dichotomies. They believe in that biological differences are why we should be treated unequally. They believe in women taking care of the household and the children while men complete DIY projects and take out the trash and maybe fire up the barbecue. They believe in certain rites and rituals being associated with one gender or the other, but are unwilling to see that gender itself is just a construct that they are maintaining through the ritualisation of everyday gender performances. </div>
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I believe in choice. I believe in earning the same amount of money for doing the same job. I believe in not being judged on the basis of having a penis or a vagina. I believe in my ability to also complete the DIY projects and barbecuing and checking my car's tyre pressure if I wanted to. And I believe in the right of men to prefer cooking and cleaning to fixing cars or drinking beers with male friends whilst complaining that <i>Playboy</i> will no longer feature fully nude women. I believe in no one being bullied online for saying they don't want to be told when to smile. I believe in feminist not equalling misandrist. I believe in equality, and for the life of me cannot understand those that don't. </div>
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dinkbeesthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04768790810171883261noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302910017084055403.post-75339745512602608792015-10-23T13:15:00.000+02:002015-10-23T13:15:22.698+02:00Free & UntornIn 2011, my tuition was R 35,020 for one year including a registration fee of R 3200 but not any of the books, stationary or living costs. Ok, I lived at home, but then again my sister was completing her Masters at the same time as I was finishing the BA, so for 2011 my mother probably had to pay around R70000 to the university. Without achievement bursaries and family waivers and my mother's hard work as a tour guide we probably would not have had the privilege of higher education.<br />
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For about a week now my FB feed has been flooded with student protest from all around the country. Friends at different universities repost and provide commentary of what is going on, giving a broader overview than the media has been able to. Yesterday I had a long Skype session with a friend about why the protests are happening now, what the problems at the heart of them were, what this means going forward. Six students in Cape Town have been arrested and accused of high treason as thousands of others today march on the Union Buildings in Pretoria to call for a meeting with President Zuma on the shocking price increases of tertiary education.<br />
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I am too far away and have been unaffected by any of this as for the past two years I have payed €500 in total as Germany doesn't have tuition fees, just a student contribution. I have profited from a system that highlights education and even provides financial aid through BAföG (a law that allows for a monthly stipend of up to €650 where half is an interest-free loan that has to be repaid 5 years after completing the degree) to those whose parents do not have the financial means to support them. Naturally, the two countries are vastly different and Germany has one of the strongest economies, thus having the funds to support tuition-free learning. For many of the students currently protesting, they might be the first in their family to even get to university, the first to have a chance at something better. And is this not what everyone wants: for those who come after us to do better and to have it better? Instead there is global warming and ISIS and corruption and #BlackLivesMatter and Alaskan oil fields and billions in mismanaged funds and and and.<br />
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But this protest back home, man, it stirs something inside of me, somehow the hope that change for the better may come from this, that somehow there has been a small shift in people's attitudes that simply said: no more. We have ignored this up to now, we have laughed about a president that cannot even read <a href="http://www.news24.com/Live/SouthAfrica/News/WATCH-Zuma-does-comedic-jig-after-fumbling-over-ANC-membership-number-20151012" target="_blank">his party's membership numbers</a>, we have accepted the crime rate, we have accepted Nkandla, we have accepted the xenophobia, we have accepted the fear of one another, we have all said that something must change but what and how and then gone back to our braai and watching the rugby/cricket/Isidingo/7de Laan.<br />
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So perhaps this, this could be it. This, more than petty politics between the ANC and the DA. This, more than bridges collapsing on the M1 or grandmothers still using the 'K' word or Marikana. This, because <a href="http://texxandthecity.com/2015/10/moving-photos-from-feesmustfall-movement" target="_blank">the born frees have had enough</a>. This could be our June 16, 1976.<br />
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<br />dinkbeesthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04768790810171883261noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302910017084055403.post-49631033761015980422015-10-21T21:13:00.000+02:002015-10-21T21:13:58.051+02:00Ich will keine Schokolade<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<span style="text-align: center;">There are essential choices to be made in life.</span><br />
Cats or dogs.<br />
Pants or skirts. <br />
Blond, brunette, red or black (or any other colour, really).<br />
Vanilla or chocolate. <br />
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Today, we chose chocolate, all the way. <br />
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The day started out with a marvelous sunset above the city roofs before heading into the Musée d'Orsay an hour before opening to see the <em>Misère et Splendeurs</em> exhibition <a href="http://eyeandtheworld.blogspot.fr/2015/10/girl.html" target="_blank">again</a>, this time without the masses and the space to notice the details or contemplate with the other interns the practicality and positioning of a special intercourse chair made for a corpulent king whose name I can't recall but who was a frequent visitor to the higher-end Parisian brothels before being crowned. In glass counters we discovered century-old condoms, business cards for the ladies of the night touting Swedish massages and multilingual abilities as well as small pamphlets for brothels that look identical to the ones handed out now also in the North of the city for marabouts that can cure any ailment. <br />
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">A rare sight: the Musée d'Orsay, empty. </td></tr>
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Manet's <i>Olympia, </i>where no photograph could do its beauty justice. </td></tr>
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From the exhibition we headed across the Seine to <a href="http://www.angelina-paris.fr/fr/" target="_blank"><em>Angelina</em></a>, an eatery famed for its hot chocolate and Mont Blanc patisserie. By coincidence (or rather Instagram scrolling) I had found <a href="https://instagram.com/desserted_in_paris/" target="_blank">@desserted_in_paris</a>, a pâtissier who posts daily photographs of beautiful sweet indulgences. I started making a list of places to stuff my face at and <em>Angelina</em> happened to be one of them. The four of us ordered the hot chocolate and two pastries to share. Postcolonialist me shuddered at the calling a hot chocolate "L'Africain" or the one pastry a "Negresco", but this did not distract from pure chocolate overkill. The hot chocolate is basically melted dark chocolate in what I suspect to be half-and-half, with the Mont Blanc consisting of a mound of chestnut vermicelli resting on a meringue and cream base. The Negresco is the perfect combination of meringue, light dark chocolate mousse, dark chocolate icing and dark chocolate shavings to round it off. Had we not shared them I think I would have gone into a blissful but necessary chocolatey coma.<br />
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Sweetness!</td></tr>
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Their signature patisserie, the Mont Blanc. </td></tr>
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Right next door to <em>Angelina</em> is the <a href="http://www.galignani.fr/histoire-de-la-librairie-galignani.php" target="_blank">Galignani</a> bookstore, which focuses on art and fashion books and has an admirable English book selection at the back with two comfortable leather reading chairs. They have a copy of Ondaatje's <em>The Cinnamon Peeler</em> which I am waiting to buy at the end of my stay here, kind of as a reminder of this city and a reward for finishing the thesis (one can hope and pray and actually sit on one's behind to make this happen).<br />
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From there we trotted back reluctantly to sit at our computers and do menial work of unimportance. <br />
What a day. <br />
<br />dinkbeesthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04768790810171883261noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302910017084055403.post-87389718657759450292015-10-17T13:04:00.000+02:002015-10-17T13:04:08.544+02:00No More Losing The WarThings packed, <div>
Bag slung over the shoulder, </div>
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coat on, I intended to say: "Have a nice evening."</div>
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But she interrupted </div>
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asking whether I was ok, that I hadn't looked it these past days, if everything was alright?</div>
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For two seconds </div>
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my brain ran the gamut of answers</div>
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all starting with no. </div>
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No, because I fear I won't make this deadline,</div>
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mostly because of my own self-sabotage </div>
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and laziness. </div>
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No, because the man in front of me is tip-toeing through his day </div>
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and I want to shout at him to use his ENTIRE FUCKING FOOT</div>
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as I, elephantine, stampede through the concrete jungle</div>
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embarrassed by this bad analogy. </div>
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No, because the darkness I see when I go to sleep is all</div>
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sharp edges and steely blue-black shards,</div>
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not the comforting velvet fur of a black cat disappearing into night. </div>
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to compromise when it is none. </div>
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No, because I feel fat and </div>
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there aren't any good mangoes to be had</div>
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so I wear my nightmares to work. </div>
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No, because my new shoes hurt so much that</div>
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yesterday I was shuffling home,</div>
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No, because all of this makes life feel beyond my control,</div>
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just here for the ride, </div>
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like that one time I went on Space Mountain</div>
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and hated it. </div>
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No, because the air is getting heavier and heavier</div>
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and I can't breathe. </div>
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Instead I answer with a "thank you, but it's just tiredness"</div>
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and close the glass doors</div>
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shutting out as much as they are shutting in. </div>
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dinkbeesthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04768790810171883261noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302910017084055403.post-34664333046619934132015-10-11T14:28:00.000+02:002015-10-17T14:23:50.946+02:00Take ShelterUpon skim-reading some article on design in SA, a friend asked whether I agreed with the statement that one designer made: that design is a Western concept, and design-thinking not really relevant to the non-white population.<br />
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What bullshit. </div>
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Design is relevant to every one, all day, every day. </div>
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Irrespective of where you live and what you do, design is relevant. Everything is design, in some way or another. Let me just list what I encounter daily: </div>
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- Android/Apple system on my phones</div>
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- the electronic <i>Passe Navigo</i> to take the metro</div>
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- the Metro's Art Nouveau signage</div>
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- the city's grid, conceived by Haussmann at the request of Napoleon III between 1853 and 1870</div>
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- the design of my shoes, my jeans, my shirt, my bag, even my underwear or my bedding </div>
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- my building's design, and all of the buildings that I encounter on the daily passage through the city</div>
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- packaging design for food items</div>
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- restaurant and other signage</div>
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- advertising all over the city</div>
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- graffiti on city walls</div>
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It might not all be good or efficient design, but irrespective of who you are, your world is surrounded by design. Even the uncontacted tribes of the Brazilian rainforest employ design in the way they construct their huts or make a bow and arrow. </div>
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The assumption that design-thinking is not relevant is ludicrous, and insulting. Just looking at Instagram accounts such as <a href="https://instagram.com/trevor_stuurman/" target="_blank">@trevor_stuurman</a>, <a href="https://instagram.com/yetudada/" target="_blank">@yetudada</a>, <a href="https://instagram.com/yoliswa_xo/" target="_blank">@yoliswa_xo</a> or <a href="https://instagram.com/iseeadifferentyou/" target="_blank">@iseeadifferentyou</a> prove that at least in the middle-class there is a definitive design and style consciousness and a willingness to play around with possibilities. Add to that websites like <a href="http://superbalist.com/" target="_blank">Superbalist</a>, <a href="http://www.theprettyblog.com/" target="_blank">The Pretty Blog</a>, <a href="http://shesaid.co.za/" target="_blank">She Said</a>, <a href="http://www.luckypony.co.za/" target="_blank">Lucky Pony</a> and <a href="http://skinnylaminx.com/" target="_blank">Skinny Laminx</a>'s fabric design, and you'll see an interest in design permeating every social and digital medium. </div>
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Sure, most of the population does not have the same awareness of design influences in their lives because they have not been educated on it or possess the vocabulary to express it, but I would argue that it is a design-consciousness that is missing, not the relevance of the concept itself. Whether you buy Iwisa maize meal or Pick 'n Pay's no name brand already involves a design choice (if one omits a price and taste difference, but if I recall correctly Iwisa may have even been cheaper than No Name?).<br />
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Housing on the Western outskirts of Pretoria. </td></tr>
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If you live in an <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Reconstruction_and_Development_Programme" target="_blank">RDP</a> house, you are confronted with a failure in design and city planning that has far-reaching consequences. In Anton Harber's book <i><a href="http://www.jonathanball.co.za/index.php/component/virtuemart/diepsloot-detail?Itemid=6" target="_blank">Diepsloot</a></i>, the author asks a worker in city planning why the RDP housing consist of single plots of land with tiny houses on them (think a very low-budget version of the opening sequence of <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=omPGf5_6dUA" target="_blank">Weeds</a>) that stretch over kilometres when it would have been more effective in terms of electricity and water access, as well as use of space, to build high-rise housing? Her answer was that initially the RDP houses, as they are, are cheaper and quicker to build, and that apartment buildings would be more affordable over the long run, but would not keep in line with the promise made by the ANC in 1994 to provide 'housing for everyone' since culturally the expectation is of a piece of land of one's own.<br />
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Housing in the middle of nowhere, I think in the Western Cape. </td></tr>
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However, the way the RDP houses are constructed are a secondary form of Apartheid homelands: still far out of the cities, still stretching over vast spaces, still far from jobs, still somewhat of an upgraded township. If one drives along the N1 from Johannesburg to Cape Town, these settlements spring up in the middle of nowhere all over the country. If where you live is so far away from where you work and there is no efficient transportation system in place, how are you supposed to get there? I find them to be depressing places where what housing could be has been corrupted by the desire of the government to pad the statistics. But statistics are worthless when the design that went into the original concept is more harmful than efficient (e.g. <a href="http://usa.streetsblog.org/wp-content/uploads/sites/5/2015/03/sprawlurban.jpg" target="_blank">this infographic</a> on suburban development costing almost three times as much as urban development does). </div>
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I am no designer. I crop things in MS Paint. I download templates and adjust them because I wouldn't know which design programs to use or how to use them. But I have kind of being studying how to look at things and humans and culture for years, and sat through numerous classes on design alchemy, so I am not entirely ignorant on the topic. And as I said, design is relevant to every one, all day, every day. </div>
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(Stefan Sagmeister and Jessica Walsh also offer a great<a href="http://www.sagmeisterwalsh.com/answers/category/being-a-designer/" target="_blank"> Q&A on their website</a>, or check out Sagmeister's <a href="https://www.ted.com/talks/stefan_sagmeister_shares_happy_design?language=en" target="_blank">TED Talk on designing happiness</a>).</div>
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dinkbeesthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04768790810171883261noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302910017084055403.post-23206696562362535922015-10-03T17:59:00.000+02:002015-10-03T17:59:00.424+02:00Girl<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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Until mid-January, the Musée d'Orsay is hosting an exhibition entitled<i><a href="http://www.musee-orsay.fr/fr/evenements/expositions/au-musee-dorsay/presentation-generale/article/splendeurs-et-miseres-42671.html?no_cache=1&tx_ttnews%5BbackPid%5D=643" target="_blank"> Splendeurs et misères. Images de la prostitution, 1850-1910</a> </i>which delves into the lives of prostitutes as represented in art in the early 20th century. The museum's employees were striking, so on the day that I went the museum was overrun with people. The prostitution exhibit was overcrowded and hard to enjoy as everyone bumped past one another. What I got from it was a) to return another day because what I did see was excellently curated, b) that black and white porn films from 1909 are awkward when viewed with about 40 other people with a median age of 60 and c) that in the past 100 years, things have changed as much as they haven't.<br />
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By coincidence I live in the area that the exhibition centres around. Montmartre housed most of the brothels and bars where the girls could work, as well as offering cheap housing for artists like Manet, Degas and Picasso. The exhibition also details the world of higher class escorts who catered to the extremely wealthy and mostly managed to marry someone with a title, thus ensuring their livelihood. But for most women, prostitution was what they had to do to survive: in addition to being washerwomen, maids or bar ladies, they had to supplement their income by selling their bodies in order to survive in the city.<br />
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Now, a century later, the street between the Moulin Rouge and Anvers consists of sex shops and tourist stores. To the left of my door is the what seems to be the gay leather sex-wrestling outfits store, and to the right the dildo one. Then there is the Sexodrom with various floors (and their are urgently looking for a sales person, judging by the sign that I have walked past daily in the last weeks). All of them somehow have signs that just read 'Sex', so I am not sure about the specific customers that they cater to. It can't just be tourists that get lost on their way from the Sacre Coeur to the Moulin Rouge. These shops must survive because there are actually enough people buying 50-Shades-of-Gray branded handcuffs and pleather suits and porn on DVDs.<br />
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There is a certain seediness to it all. As with the red-light districts of other cities, it seems like something to poke fun at, something where tourists can enter and as a joke buy a little somethin-somethin. But just as in the 1900s there must be a social and cultural undercurrent now that accepts the need for prostitution. What is that need though? Is sex really a need, something that should be pencilled into the Universal Declaration of Human Rights or added to the Ten Commandments or whatever system of belief it is that humanity adheres to? What are the implications when ever increasingly the body comes at a price? And here, I am not just talking about literally paying for the sexual services of a person, of money exchanging hands. No, what are the consequences of when social media become sexual media? As much as apps such as Grinder, Tinder and here, adopte un mec (jip, "adopt a guy") are used to simply connect with other (mutually interested and interesting) people, one cannot deny that most of them are also used as hook-up apps.<br />
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I find it all disingenuous. Everyone searching for easy accompaniment, for no-strings-attached, for emotional uninvolvement and not knowing anothers names, and yet everyone somehow seeming so damn lonely all the time.dinkbeesthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04768790810171883261noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302910017084055403.post-61813460065168561392015-10-02T16:39:00.000+02:002015-10-02T20:05:40.523+02:00Sugar<br />
For a while there everyone seemed to be talking about food trucks, with it culminating in the food-truck-film <i><a href="http://www.imdb.com/title/tt2883512/" target="_blank">Chef</a> </i>about a chef losing his restaurant job and going on the road throughout select cities in the US. The only time I remember eating something truckishly was a childhood holiday to the Virgin Islands, where we stopped to grab the best frozen yoghurt ever from a turquoise caravan. All I can remember is hundreds of hundreds-and-thousands, which at that time equalled happiness.<br />
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However, this gaping hole in my foodie history was filled last week as we first went to <a href="http://www.lefoodmarket.fr/" target="_blank">Le Food Market</a>, located between the Metro stations Menilmontant and Couronnes. Various sellers offer dishes from all over the world and in between the food stands there are benches to sit at and enjoy your meal. The aim is to make the market a monthly event and to promote good quality food at reasonable prices. All of the dishes were priced between 6-12€, which is about equal to what you would pay for a 'petit plat' at lunchtime in a restaurant.<br />
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We queued at the Cafe Chilango to get tacos filled with beef and chicken, and one of the girls had a burger from Burgers de l'Amour. We also grabbed some pasteis de nata for breakfast the next morning before heading to the absolute highlight: the ice-cream rolls. I had seen videos online about people on an Asian vacation (Thailand perhaps? I can't remember exactly) getting ice-cream rolls. Luckily, the trend has travelled to Paris so BOOM ice-cream rolls at Le Food Market. You choose your flavour (chocolate-pear, thank you kindly), which gets squirted in different layers onto a freezing plate. By quickly scraping together and then spreading apart the mixture, the liquid becomes solidified quite quickly. The last step is then to said scraper to create four or five individual ice-cream rolls, which are then topped with either chocolate or caramel sauce and a choice of nuts or pralines.<br />
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I had expected the ice-cream to be more of a novelty and not necessarily to be particularly tasty. The assumption was that the rapid freezing would perhaps cause more ice crystals to form and thus the ice-cream to be crunchier than expected. It was not. It was delicious. Easy as that. Delicious. </div>
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Saturday evening was spent at an actual food truck event, where the <a href="http://www.carreaudutemple.eu/sites/default/files/documents/flyerA5%20-%20streetfoodtemple%20%232.pdf" target="_blank">Carreau du Temple</a> had local trucks outside and French-Korean food inside (in light of it being the French-Korean year). It was difficult to decide what to get, but I ended up with great grilled cheeses and L had a Mexican wrap. No ice cream this time though.<br />
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Most interesting is the astounding lack of vegetarian options at both events. Even the grilled cheeses only came in poulet or boeuf (chicken or beef), which I find a bit difficult. Certainly, one could probably ask for a vegetarian version (it's grilled cheese, so...), it was just rather evident that the majority of trucks and stands simply did not offer it on their menus. After bringing this up with the other interns, all of them agree that being vegetarian or vegan in France is much harder as products are difficult to come by and/or excessively expensive. Whereas in Germany one can easily find soy and other substitutes at more or less affordable prices, the supermarkets here rarely have soy mince or rice milk or whatever it is you'd need. Even the two vegans in the group are ordering steaks and burgers here, stating the lack of options both in the supermarkets and when going out. So for now I have entered into an uneasy compromise with myself: eating out means eating everything, eating in means meat-free dishes. I think the best solution to this would just be living off of ice-cream rolls.<br />
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Paris is a filthy place. People living in a constant state of cramping: apartments are tiny, the metro is packed and the streets overflow with people, so even if this is big city living it should rather be called small space surviving. For now I live in a small studio on the 7th floor, which consists of two rooms. The one contains the bed and a small table, whereas the other has a shower, a sink and two stove plates. All you need, basically. Oh, the toilet is outside on the corridor and is shared between the 4(?) studios on this floor. The building sits between sex shops and small supermarkets near Pigalle in the 10th arrondissement. When I stand on a chair and look out of one of the windows I can spot the Eiffel tower in the distance. There is constant noise, even though I am at the back of the building: in my room itself the fridge makes alarm-like sounds whilst the electricity metre is an eternally spinning circular silver thing that sounds like an eternally spinning circular silver thing. Then there is the school next door whose electronic bell rings at strange intervals and the kids playing basketball on the court in the road behind the house. This cacophony is expanded by occasional squeals of a siren, hearing my neighbours through the walls and on weekends the music from the clubs in the area combine into an audible mess in the ever colder turning air.<br />
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First there was sound, and then there were the masses of people. MASSES of people. Endless streams of humans everywhere, always moving somewhere in haste. In a city of millions, the individual disappears. It is like an amoeba, swallowing up everyone into anonymity. Paris is a bit of a depressing city in this regard. All of living on top of one another and yet no one and nothing matters, all replaceable, all just cogs in a machine.<br />
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And yet there have been moments where the myth that is this city presented itself. On a bad day, as I was leaving the metro, a man on roller skates with ballerina lacing whizzed past. Another time, an Algerian man helped a woman from the French Antilles with her suitcases and after 6 metro stations they exchanged business cards. Another intern keeps buying a begging woman food for lunch. On Wednesday I walked to the Seine, met a friend for a McFlurry, and walked back. Yesterday we went to a food market and had rolled ice cream (ok, I like any type of ice cream, rolled, flurried, scooped...). Tomorrow there is the Anish Kapoor exhibit in Versailles. On Sunday the city is partially car-free. Last weekend the journées du patrimoine (cultural heritage days?) enabled anyone with an ID to get into the Élysée Palace (and other no-go ministeries and museums and and and) and check out the president's office (more on the 6.5 hours of queuing I'd like to get back in another post).<br />
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So despite a waft of urine on occasion hitting your nostrils, despite the millions of others trying to eek out a living here, despite excessively high costs and tiny spaces, well, despite all the negativity, I'd gobble it all up again, come back for seconds and even thirds. I'd drink a case of this place because nowhere else is misery this closely accompanied by magic. <br />
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<br />dinkbeesthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04768790810171883261noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3302910017084055403.post-54091740156880701632015-09-24T23:50:00.000+02:002015-09-24T23:50:57.761+02:00Ode to YouMy mother keeps sending pictures to our family WhatsApp group of people braaiing (barbecuing), because today is Heritage Day in South Africa. Somehow, some clever marketing person decided to rebrand the day to 'Braai Day', which everyone embraced wholeheartedly and now people get together to celebrate the rainbow nation by grilling meat over an open flame.<br />
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In Paris it was a day like any other, a day closer to another weekend. As people at home were enjoying spring's sunshine and a good boerie roll I was sitting at a laundromat eating a <i>pain au chocolat</i>. Waiting for my laundry made me wonder what heritage means to us, both as a people with a strong patriotic streak and as individuals with very different ideas of what a single heritage might constitute. Are we even allowed to be patriotic? Does it depend on where you come from for you to be allowed to be proud of the passport you carry? In a world that is becoming more and more borderless, does the concept of nationhood still hold true? And does heritage go beyond birth certificates to included lived experiences, past and present?<br />
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Elsewhere, I have questioned <a href="http://eyeandtheworld.blogspot.fr/2015/02/choice-kingdom.html" target="_blank">the idea of belonging</a>, of finding the puzzle that you as a piece fit into. Heritage is complicated by our family history: on the one hand white Afrikaners (white Afrikaans-speaking South Africans), on the other hand white German emigrants. Double the whiteness, double the guilt. The one side systematically divided a country up according to skin colour and for more than 50 years privileged anyone European-looking to the detriment of a much larger (and darker) local population. The other side systematically divided up a country according to what they defined as a superior race and tried to exterminate any population that did not fit this mould, leading to the World War II and millions dead (soldiers, civilians and those in the extermination camps).<br />
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On Heritage Day, do we look to this past and remember never to make the same mistakes? Do I acknowledge the privilege of my life, through the whiteness of my skin and the middle-class status that my parents worked hard for? Is there even a point to this navel-gazing, when most don't consider the current inequality that has shifted from race to class? A friend recently posted an article by Prof. Jonathan Jansen, rector of the University of the Free State, titled <a href="http://www.rdm.co.za/politics/2015/09/17/how-to-be-white-and-happy-in-south-africa" target="_blank">How to be White and Happy in South Africa </a>. The gist of the article is to accept your position and to learn to listen to those from different cultures and (economic backgrounds), as you have grown up shielded from the hardships that people with darker pigmented skin had to endure. Heritage today, an attempt at understanding?<br />
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Now I live on a continent of privilege and with refugees flooding into the European Union the prejudices we carry with us become even clearer. There were wonderful images of people welcoming groups of refugees as they arrived in Munich. On social media I have seen the engagement of my peers through organisations such as Refugees Welcome in trying to help, be it through donating their time, their money or other goods. People are coming together in hours of need, and it is flooring to see. As Jonathan Freedland argues in <a href="http://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2015/sep/11/merkel-ugly-german-history" target="_blank">an article for The Guardian</a>, "this has been no overnight transformation. Germans have spent decades reckoning with their past in a way few nations can match. Nevertheless the embrace Germany is currently offering to the dispossessed of Syria – while so much of Europe closes its doors or quibbles over tiny numbers – has altered perceptions anew. "<br />
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So perhaps heritage can evolve into something better, from those who have helping those who have not to my Afrikaans mother making my German gran's Spätzle with Rouladen and showing us how to do it. Heritage is in the buildings we queue for hours to get into, in the DNA of our appearance and the family recipes that get passed on from generation to generation, in knowing that the evil that men do lives after them and the good is interred with their bones.<br />
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